• Fr. Tim Doubblestein

Love is Tired

Updated: Feb 28


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Love is on its way out

Love is on its way out

Love is broken down and it's on its way out Did you see the headlines? Did you see the grablines?


I will have to say that this past week has been a hard one for my heart. It seems that no matter where I looked, what conversations I overheard, posts I've seen on Facebook, everywhere there was a lack of love. And for some reason, I couldn't put words to the heart break I was experiencing. I felt doomed to view it but be unable to speak against it in any way that others would understand. And then today, bursting onto the stage from my Alt-rock, angst filled memory of my teenaged 1980's came the latest single from Morrissey, the former lead singer of The Smiths. "Love is on its way out. Love is tired and it's on its way out." Thanks, Moz. You always knew how to put it sustinctly.


Is love tired? Or instead, are we tired of love? Is love just too much work? These are important questions because when you understand the nature of agape, that bold and self-giving love that the Gospel calls us to exhibit, you begin to think that most of the world has just thrown up its hands at the concept and declared it to be "not worth the trouble". It is so much easier to give in to hate, to think the worst of a person, to not give a damn and write them off as a lost cause. "Love is broken down and it's on its way out."


And yet. And yet the Gospel of Jesus Christ continues to impress upon us that Love is at the heart of what will save the world. "A new commandment I give to you," he says, "that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you are to love one another." (John 13:34). No exception, no loophole. Just

self-giving, life giving love that breaks its heart over the wounds and loss of another. A love that will stand in the middle of waring factions and say, "ENOUGH!"


"But before it goes, do you have the time the time to show me what's it like? Take time, be mine, gaze with fondness on the wrong one"


What if we took time to gaze on that one we don't like, the one who fills us with rage and, instead of seeing someone to rail against we tried to gaze upon them with fondness. What if we took to heart the words of St. Paul to the Corinthians? "Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong doing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." (1 Corinthians 13:4-7) These are not words to the starry-eyed lovers who often quote them at the nuptial altar. These are words to the Children of God who must work and live and worship with people who rub them the wrong way. They are words to us who see despicable people do despicable things and find ourselves enraged and disgusted. "Love bears all things." It even dares to look on that wrong one and love them still.


After all, as Morrissey sang in another song, "If it's not love, then it's the bomb that will bring us together."